YOU CAN STILL TURN 2016 INTO THE YEAR YOU DREAMED IT WOULD BE – Here are 5 ways to do just that!
By Angie Williams, Dermology in-house Life Coach.
So you started the year off with a sparkle in your eye, a spring in your step and a dream … This is going to be the year that you create the breakthrough that you’ve been longing for. You may have planned to:
- Get that promotion at work
- Start studying further or complete your studies
- Fire your boss and start your own business
- Lose some weight
- Get fit and healthy
- Pay off debt
- Quit that bad habit that’s holding you back
- Free yourself from that abusive or draining relationship
- Finish the project you’ve been putting off
You’ll know what promises you made to yourself at the dawn of the New Year.
How are you progressing so far?
Do you feel like you are missing (or may have missed) the boat?
The great news is… It’s not too late to turn 2016 into the year you dreamed it would be!
- Revisit your reason why
Why did you set that particular goal? What was the motivation behind it?
When setting goals it is very important to take the time to truly understand the reason why we set that particular goal. Perhaps you should ask yourself questions such as:
- How will my life improve when I achieve this goal?
- What possibilities will I lose out on if I don’t achieve it?
- Identify your external saboteurs
“Life is what happens to you while you’re making other plans”. – John Lennon
That is to some extent true, but there are some things we can control in our external environment.
We can to some extent control who we spend time with. This is important because…“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” – Jim Rohn
Do the people you spend time with support you in your efforts to achieve your goals, or do they instead pull you down the slippery slope away from what you want to achieve?
Are other people prioritizing your time for you?
- Identify your internal saboteurs
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right”. – Henry Ford
If we consider that about 90% of what we do on a daily basis is controlled by our sub-conscious mind and done on “auto-pilot”, it is easy to understand how our best intentions of changing something in our life can easily be pushed aside by our ‘programming’. The sub-conscious mind is an extremely powerful operating system with a multitude of layers of programming including genetic heritage and evolved learning and conditioning.Its primary objective is our instant physical and psychological survival.While this may sound wonderful, the problem is that the sub-conscious mind does not think about the long-term consequences of its primitive survivalist defense mechanisms.
These defense mechanisms often sabotage our goals to make positive changes in our lives because we have to move out of our comfort zone or perceived safety zone to achieve these goals. This is why people often find themselves back where they started.
We have to recognize these automated defense mechanisms for what they are, and override them so that we take the necessary actions which move us closer to achieving our goals.
- Make it a priority
If you really want to achieve your goal, it is yours to achieve. All you need to do is to make a commitment to yourself to achieve it, and make the time to take the steps that need to be taken.
Be aware of your external and internal saboteurs. If they sneak up on you and knock you of course – it’s no big deal. Just pick yourself up, shake yourself off, and get back on track.
The only person standing between you and achieving your goal is the one looking back at you in the mirror. Smile at that person, and take them with you on the journey of a lifetime.
- Enlist the help of a coach
If you’re feeling stuck in your circumstances and feel unable to make the sustainable changes you know you need to make in your life, it may be time to “phone a friend”.
A good coach will ask you the questions which will guide you to greater clarity, purpose and focus, help you in identifying your saboteurs, and challenge you to achieve your goals and live the life of your dreams.